If science fiction/fantasy is not for you, it's not for you. But if you liked the idea but gave up on it because it was the province of straight white men, let me recommend you take another look: the Hugo and Nebula award candidates are full of amazing stuff like N. K. Jemisin's Stone Sky series, Yoon-Ha Lee's Machineries of Empire, Aliette de Bodard's The Tea Master and the Detective, and Naomi Novik's Spinning Silver.
@anne Haven't read many of these but can definitely second the recommendation for N. K. Jemisen's work. She's one of the best authors we've read recently.
Her Inheritance Trilogy is good too!
*goes to look up the ones we haven't seen before*
@Felthry Oh, good catch! Quite right. The whole series is amazing.