Actually, I'm gonna take this father:

"Identity", in the deepest sense, is the *process* of how you become the most yourself, not just what you happen to be at any intermediate step.

@starkatt I think this is an apt phrasing, yes. Identity is a process. Or, as R. Buckminster Fuller put it, "I seem to be a verb." =n.n=

@starkatt I've been thinking a lot about this recently. I had an open conversation about it on my private Twitter on Monday: https://twitter.com/SoftMawr/status/861779321685393408

It started with "Open question to queer folks: is it normal for us to struggle with a sense of identity? Is it just 'cause we're so outside of the norm?"

The answers I received in response could largely be summarized as "the problem isn't with us, but rather society's attachment to the fallacy of normal."

@starkatt It's in our culture to apply a great deal of pressure to things that do not fit within our expectations. As a result, when you identify as something outside of the cultural norm, that pressure is applied directly and can manifest in the form of identity crisis.

...I've kind of been stuck in a loop of identity crisis for the past 6 months. ^^;

There's actually an essay I've been meaning to write about Identity as Process. I've made one attempt at it that was too scattered to publish -- maybe I should try again?

@starkatt As someone who can relate to the sentiment on -way- more levels than just the genders, PLEASE! I think it'd be well-recieved and quite useul