alcohol, drinking culture
i know i can be pretty tone deaf and miss social cues but ALSO i am 97% sure i wasn't being overly preachy or sanctimonious about it. like i didn't phrase it in a pushy or rude way. felt weird, felt bad.
american culture's relation to alcohol is really weird and fucked when just gently suggesting "what if u do (x) instead" is seen as Impossibly Judgmental ...