cw manipulation
god. im just thinking about people who simultaneously 1) accuse someone of manipulating people, while these same people 2) tell others that if you're friends with x, you're not friends of theirs.
my dude, that is called: using fear to manipulate people you know into not questioning you or challenging you. it is the most middleschool thing imaginable. what are you even doing.
but i mean, that's projection i guess
cw manipulation
it's so frustrating. of course there are times when you wanna signal that you don't want x people in your space, like nazis or whatever. but when you do it about personal and complicated grudges, that's... kind of... bullshit?
you're making it difficult for people to have conversations around you, and closing yourself off to more and more. people need to stop projecting their bad feelings onto others who it doesn't concern (esp if it was a one-off thing!) -- THAT'S manipulative
cw manipulation
like, gghhh, especially if a conflict is done and over, and every party has tried their best to resolve it. there's no fucking reason to keep dragging that negative shit forward. it helps NO ONE.
it keeps bad feelings around uselessly, and creates this bullshit where people feel comfortable being able to rag on a thing that's been resolved for years just because they can point to something out of context and go "look! I'm better than this!"