@cassolotl@cybre.space "emotional labor" is very gendered. female-type people are *expected* to be the comforters, the listeners, the emotional fixers, and it's supposed to be the high point of their relationship with a male-type person, that Special Sharing Moment when the male-person "unburdens" himself and the female-person soothes and strokes him. ugh ugh uugggghhhhh