drugs//consent
I tend to get horny when I'm fucked up, there some exceptions to this but *most* do it...
I've had this moderately exploited in the past, but it's mostly just set me up for some amusing lewdness or another.
But it can make it really questionable for everyone involved how much *I* am actually consenting to the acts in question given I often need to be in an altered state to effectively interface with them.
drugs//consent//rape
@IrisKalmia It is my firm belief that anyone under the influence of mind altering substances is not capable of
giving consent-- and that consent given beforehand is not admissible as the substances themselves may alter their mental state sufficiently to revoke that consent.
I've heard so many stories about people getting high and having sex where consent was called into question after the fact.
Ultimately, I strongly feel it's just not safe for anyone involved.
drugs//consent//rape
@mawr And it also stretches outside of sex... There were a few times friends started playing small games with me in an intoxicated state that weren't sexual at all but could be extremely problematic/damaging. One of the better ones was a pair of people working with each other to basically ruin my perspective of space and causality... With gestured claps and the sound coming from the 'wrong' place and other simple tricks
@IrisKalmia Yeah, that's not cool without consent either. D:
@mawr Yup! My own desires, life experiences and general philosophy kinda lead to "Consent is extremely important and probably even more complicated and *difficult* than can ever be entirely solved"
But generalisms like negotiation, planning, and clear exits (safe words/gestures, actual community support structures, a society wherein revoking consent is actually OKAY and normal) can help a *lot*
drugs//consent//rape
@mawr Yep! It's one of my most least favorite things to think about because it's a tangled messy knot and that's all but superglued shut.
I also figure people are going to have intoxicated sex/kink and trying to workout a [personal] framework for it is a good idea from a harm reduction stand point.
"I don't feel safe engaging with anyone involved with this" is a perfectly valid one.