cw abuse
thinking a lot about how to convey complex nuances in abusive relationship dynamics; it's so important to also be able to convey what's GOOD about the relationship in order to show why someone isn't able to see the bad in it -- the challenge of writing this is a hell of a worthy one to me though
cw abuse
it's so fucking hard to convey why people get stuck longterm in an abusive relationship. if you can't properly articulate the decline in boundaries or self-respect, at the hands of the other, then it's... i mean, that's what makes it so hard - it requires stepping into the perspective of the one with the eroded boundaries, and not everyone has been in such a miserable place
cw abuse
@glip
Holy shit... when I replied to this thread a month ago, I was speaking from experience with a group of people I was with online but it just dawned on me how merciless and inhumane my living conditions were in my last place of residence, it's getting to me
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@Tidevoceanfinite oh nooooooo, i'm so sorry to hear that D: it's kind of hard to notice when your own circumstances are bad when it's the only "normalcy" you have to judge by...
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@glip
Still, I don't think it would be wise to try to patch up any of whatever dumb stuff I was dealing with until I've sorted my actual life out, first. And obviously try to find more people that I can actually trust before I get hurt like that again.
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@glip
They say that ignorance is bliss, and that's evident from things like that, but I guess that at a certain point, you end up having to look at stuff in a new light, and you can pick up in things that you couldn't before. I would still say that what I said in my last reply was true about hiw fucked it must have been for me, but it must have been fucked for the other people in order for it to have happened or been that way in the first place.