masked papaya @glip@awoo.space
the one, the only, uh... well, i do floraverse.com and forbiddenflora.com (nsfw) and that's about it. queer as fuck enby and relentlessly optimistic
no tolerance for harassment, hate, or mob thinking
Joined Sep 2018
cw stalking/harassment
anyway just thinking about how KF uses the pretense "oh we're protecting children" to justify all of the horrible abuse at me (what children??? I don't fucking talk to children!!!) while simultaneously archiving all of the photos my best friend stuck on twitter of his young child, just telling him to get over it when he expressed his shock and horror.
that's how you can tell how sincere KF is about Protecting Children.
they stalk children. literal small children.
cw manipulation
like, gghhh, especially if a conflict is done and over, and every party has tried their best to resolve it. there's no fucking reason to keep dragging that negative shit forward. it helps NO ONE.
it keeps bad feelings around uselessly, and creates this bullshit where people feel comfortable being able to rag on a thing that's been resolved for years just because they can point to something out of context and go "look! I'm better than this!"
cw manipulation
it's so frustrating. of course there are times when you wanna signal that you don't want x people in your space, like nazis or whatever. but when you do it about personal and complicated grudges, that's... kind of... bullshit?
you're making it difficult for people to have conversations around you, and closing yourself off to more and more. people need to stop projecting their bad feelings onto others who it doesn't concern (esp if it was a one-off thing!) -- THAT'S manipulative
cw manipulation
god. im just thinking about people who simultaneously 1) accuse someone of manipulating people, while these same people 2) tell others that if you're friends with x, you're not friends of theirs.
my dude, that is called: using fear to manipulate people you know into not questioning you or challenging you. it is the most middleschool thing imaginable. what are you even doing.
but i mean, that's projection i guess
cw instance discourse
when you have vulnerable people in your care, it should be your TOP PRIORITY to make sure that any action you take on anyone is one you can stand by completely. what kind of message are you sending if you get rid of someone who works hard to be better every single day, who has a rough past, who has a trail of stalkers who revel in destruction?
it's the lazy solution that really signals that you'd throw anyone under the bus if it were convenient; it makes people feel unsafe
cw instance discourse
I only even say this shit as someone who adamantly did my best to run a safe discord server for my group. we had hundreds of people in it and my top fucking priority was trying to make people feel like they could express themselves and make mistakes without fear of being Forever Awful.
compassion was key. paying attention to a whole situation, not making rash emotional judgments.
you GOTTA work hard to be an admin that vulnerable people NEED
cw instance discourse
it's so disappointing. if you're an admin, you need to actually look into the reality of a situation and not just kinda coast on whatever a mob is feeding you.
doing the latter is THE way to get completely fucking overrun by people who let fearful and hateful emotions clog their minds and cloud their judgment; you CANNOT cultivate a safe atmosphere if you cave in and make easy decisions and ignore the difficult conversations in pursuit of the right thing.
cw instance discourse
didn't realize snouts.online blocked me but oh boy, that's pretty disappointing, huh? how can you claim to be a safe space from harassment for marginalized folks when you're not even willing to stand up to a site dedicated to destroying the vulnerable?
how can you make that claim when you won't even try to find out what actually happened from the person you have an issue with ?
admins should openly converse about issues, not fearfully retreat at a threat. disappointing
cw stalking/harassment/KF
you have to examine motivations. you have to think about WHY people participate in this stuff.
KF doesn't let people go back on things they say. everyone is encouraged to be as bitter and vitriolic as possible. you can't defend people, you can't correct things, you can't be wrong, you can't be sympathetic, or you're the next target. of COURSE people want to blend in with that so they don't have to face it, NO ONE wants to face it
cw stalking
@OchotonidKnight i mean might as well be as open about it as you're comfortable with! they're sure comfortable being open with lies, so we might as well be comfortable being open with the truth
cw stalking/harassment/KF
you CANNOT believe a website where there is no motivation to tell the truth, no punishment for lying. you cannot. people love to lie, love to twist stories, love to fit in.
you CANNOT believe a website where people's primary motivation is making others feel bad. the easiest way to do that is to outright lie about them. the worse the lie, the worse the feelings. and then they prey on you being silent about it. on you not exposing them for what they're doing.
cw stalking/harassment
(flees my house because creepy harassment levels are going off the fucking charts and stalkers believing dangerous lies is at an all-time high, so I don't feel safe in my own home)
KF: Wow. They must have fled for a reason. Only guilty people flee. We were right, guys. Time to find out where they're living next and dox them there, too. This makes us the good guys. Just trying to spread helpful info. Only guilty people don't want harmful strangers knowing their address IRL.
cw stalking/harassment
@packbat I don't know!! I really don't know, but I hope that talking about it loudly will do SOMETHING and at least help educate people that this shit HAPPENS. auauugh
cw stalking/harassment
(finally makes the decision I've wanted to make for fucking years to get divorced so I can marry eevee, who i've been with for 10 years, who i would've also married a long time ago if the law allowed it)
KF: Well actually, that's very tasteless. Who gets married immediately after leaving someone. Wow. It's definitely got to be fake. This came out of nowhere. I can't think of any other possible explanation except it must be fake.
cw stalking/harassment
(comes forth with a personal tale of finally extracting myself from a long and abusive marriage, one where KF blames me for every single thing my husband did that I didn't know about)
KF: Do you know what's reasonable? What if we make it look like glip is mean for leaving their husband. Actually maybe the divorce is fake. All those bad things we think about their husband don't matter anymore. This is clearly an act to save face. Blame glip. Nevermind him.
cw stalking/harassment
isn't it a little fucking bonkers to act like a random person online owes you their divorce documents. isn't it crazy that RANDOM STRANGERS act like it's reasonable for you to have to prove things going on in your own, personal life, to THEM. this is not fucking acceptable. this is so fucking creepy i cannot even
cw stalking/harassment
I'm so tired of just silently shouldering the burden of hundreds of strangers playing a fun (horrid) game of telephone with my life, and thousands of people pretending like they're doing good in the world by spreading fraudulent claims so they have something to feel morally superior to
it's so fucked up. it's so fucked up. why do people act like this is acceptable or okay
sorry to make a bunch of toots about this stuff but oh my god i need to talk about it somewhere. for way too long i've just not spoken up about the horrible things these people do and say CONSTANTLY and I'm tired of being quiet about it
cw stalking/rape
nevermind. everyone caught me. it was just a lie all along.
i have no interest in getting divorced from someone who slowly strangled the life out of me, who lied to me for years, who cheated on me multiple times, who ignored every boundary i had right at the very start of our marriage, who would fuck me even if i didn't want to, who would neglect me for weeks and ignore me if i tried to talk, who would--
wait. no. that's fucking nuts. I'm getting divorced bc of EXACTLY THIS.
cw stalking
I cannot fucking get over this. just imagine going about your life as usual, except, every single thing you say, there's dozens of people trying to go "Well, ACtually," and call you a liar. over your own life. Constantly
all the time
randos thinking that, for some reason, they need to confirm you are, in fact, getting divorced from a neglectful individual who abused your boundaries over and over
what the fuck, what the fuck is wrong with people, this is so unreal
the one, the only, uh... well, i do floraverse.com and forbiddenflora.com (nsfw) and that's about it. queer as fuck enby and relentlessly optimistic
no tolerance for harassment, hate, or mob thinking
Joined Sep 2018
