@paralithode i think it's easier to notice when Discourse etc. gets under your skin when you're already exhausted in other parts of your life; if Discourse happens but you're in a better position to let it slide, it's not as exhausting and consequently not as noticeable.
i think these opinions are certainly important to share and discuss, and i'm generally happy to see them regardless; i'm sorry it's more draining for you now, but i do think it's worth getting your thoughts out there!