I had to remove my desktop from the known hosts in /home/gitea on the rat pie box and then remove the rat pie box from the known host on the desktop and login again so that both computers would associate that public key with the correct account on the rat pie box.
This took me over a year to figure out.
Bleh.
Is this #Engineering ?
@inmysocks
So basically you had to turn it off and turn it on again.