Every safe space is tuned for specific people. Some people's safety is explicitly unsafe for others. That doesn't mean your safety, desires, or needs are inherently bad, but it DOES mean you need to consider your audience and platform.
I administer multiple discord servers (though only one of them is all that big), because each one is explicitly about making different types of people feel safe. It's important to recognize and respect that safety. If it isn't compatible with your own, it's important to find your own platform.
Side note:
Also it's just nice to be able to say this far more complete thought over the space of 3 toots than trying to cram it into 9 bite sized tweets. This isn't really relevant to the above, just sorta a nice bonus, lol
To that end, this is why I think moving towards things like Mastadon and Discord is such a good thing, we find moderated spaces that match our ideals and needs. If we must, we create our own.