Safe space talk 

So... Safe spaces. This sort of thing has been on my mind for a long time. I remember an experience I had around a year ago with a chat server that ended up being a very bad fit for me. This server was protecting extremely vulnerable, harmed people. There were triggers relating to affection and love that needed to be carefully handled.

Safe space talk 

How does someone affection starved thrive in that environment? The short answer is that they don't. If you are a person who is in need of reaffirmation and care and affection surrounded by hurt people who need space away from the more overt examples of such, your needs and their needs clash. Does that mean one group is being unreasonable? I don't believe so in the least. Both of you are in need of something. This is the value of different communities.

Safe space talk 

@BigFatFae conflicting access-needs are a big thing in leftist, social justice, mental health, and abuse/trauma survivor spaces- i really wish people would recognize this more, i see folks getting attacked sometimes b/c they have perfectly valid needs that have the misfortune of clashing w/ someone else's perfectly valid needs. i agree with you: decentralized separate-but-collaborative communities like masto or discord are great for handling this type of thing!

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@nventous I wish I could favorite this more than once <3

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