social interaction question
so could someone explain to me why neurotypical people seem to get so upset when you try to explain your reasoning for doing a wrong thing as part of an apology?
we feel pretty much obligated to because someone accepting an apology without understanding our thought process that led to making the mistake feels meaningless, but people *very* often seem to get upset when we try to explain our thoughts
social interaction question
@Felthry having told someone off for this in the past, here's my take: explanations of actions, when done poorly, can very easily come across as "here's why what I did actually makes perfect sense and is fine". It can also cause further hurt if it reveals that the offending party doesn't actually understand why their actions were harmful.
re: social interaction question
@Felthry :nod: there are definitely ways it can be done helpfully, but they're easy to mess up sometimes