am I in the wrong to want cws for our own mental health, even if we do open almost every one?

just, not being given a chance to mentally prepare for stuff, and not being able to close it after reading, makes it way harder on us

we still read the stuff. but it's wearing on our mental health and i really do *not* want to have to use keyword mutes

i want to retain our ability to engage with this stuff

i want to have cws not to silence people but so that we *don't have to* silence people

this is an actual question by the way. i want to know if i'm in the wrong here so that i can not be if i am

like, we're not black. we can't fully understand what it's like to be black. but i want to be able to read things and help where we can and not having cws is eventually going to lead to us needing to mute stuff so we don't go into a depression/panic spiral

i don't know what the right answer is here

@Felthry we really like the argument someone made that CW stuff is community-norms stuff

like, there's also a competing-access-needs situation, but, like ... we Packbats, as part of our community, try to CW heavily and limit boosts of un-CWed material*, but we don't get to make that call for people outside our community

(* we ... could probably limit un-CWed boosts more, but we don't have the spoons to add CWs to very much...)

we try to spread the word about things worth CWing as general policy, but unless we have some kind of relationship with a somebody, we don't ask them for CWs

(to be continued...)

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@Felthry we're

uncomfortable

with the degree to which people push the "asking for CWs is suppressing speech" narrative

CWs are, like image descriptions, an additional labor on posters, and the inherent politics of ... /everything/ mean that the 'politics needs to be CWed' rule creates a gray area where racism can absolutely take over - but CWs genuinely do slow the spread of inflammatory posts and thereby reduce the evolutionary selection pressure to make everything as angering as possible

and the people who push back against CWs seem to go pretty hard on the making-posts-angering track

and we mostly don't talk about this stuff because we don't want them turning that anger on us

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@packbat yeah i don't think that things should be angering and I don't think asking for cws is suppressing speech, but I do think that what people are talking about now seems to be that people are asking black folks to cw anything related to being black, which is *definitely* not something that should be done