It feels like a lot of people are really attached to where they live, and we're... kinda not? some of that might be because we spent our childhood moving every six to seven years, but a lot of it is we've never really had any local friends, all our socializing has always been online
which i guess is why we were perfectly willing to pack up and move from alabama to oregon on approximately one-month notice when we got a job, but it also means we kinda tend to assume others would be too
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@starkatt Not, really sure? the species dysphoria is a lot more but the main gender thing is voice
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@starkatt Oh, also facial/body hair
which can be taken care of more easily but anxiety of What If People Notice And We Have To Explain
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@Felthry :nod: addressing facial / body hair sounds pretty worthwhile to me. I mean, I've been there, so... :D
Is there something specific you're worried about colleagues noticing and reacting to?
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@starkatt Not really anything specific, no. Just the usual anxiety of having to Explain Things
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@Felthry :nod: pretty understandable.
Still tho, taking measures against body or facial hair isb usually not the kind of thing that leaves obvious markers. I think the most likely outcome is they'd just... not notice anything is going on, even a little.
I didn't have anyone bring it up when I had face laser, either of the two courses of it I went through.
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@starkatt I think the main barrier right now is getting past ADHD and executive dsfunction to actually start looking into it.
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@Felthry heh, yeah, as a decidedly ADHD fox I fuckin' feel that.
Hmm the first step would probably be what, looking into what laser(?) clinics there are in your area?
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@starkatt I guess laser, that's the one with a good balance of cost-to-effectiveness right? and less painful than electrolysis?
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@Felthry yep exactly, if you have lightish skin and dark to medium hair.
@Felthry gender dysphoria isn't something I've seen you talk about much. If I may ask, what's going on there?