I'm the worst person actually
I am terrible terrible terrible at saying no to people, even if I need to, and that's a serious problem that I don't even know how to work on
How do I remain me, a submissive boy, while learning to be a confident and assertive me when I need to say I can't do something or I need something to stop. Also how do I do that while letting people down gently. How the fuck
@masklayer dunno bro. This is how I ended up with my last abusive gf :/
@bea @masklayer my main problem is with boundary pushers in relationships. Trips the subby switch and then I’m stuck having boundaries trampled
@Fuego @masklayer for this i have maybe nothing helpful to say. the only thing i can think of is to put a hard limit on doing D/s stuff outside a scene....
@Fuego @masklayer yeah you can't always let people down gently and sometimes nobody is lookin our for you except you
it's hard
it takes practice, people are gonna get hurt
but as far as i can tell that's just the way it's gotta be and... i think that's ok?