thinking about a thing spotted on birdsite about autistics, and communication;

I've noticed how easy it is to miscommunicate before. Now I'm realizing that since communication is influenced by an infinite combination of cultural backgrounds and personal development, by definition you're going to completely fail to get the idea across to people. I don't think I'm autistic, but definitely understand having limited enough emotional resources to learn to communicate in one way/limited ways and therefore feeling shattered when I run into the inevitable misunderstanding.

If a savvy allistic grasps adapting your communication style, it's also common to assume someone who doesn't understand is stupid/willfully not getting it. And I can see this leading to disaster both for autistic people and in my own life.