Not really a stoned thought, mh
A big thing I figured out this year is “stripped of negative childhood messages, bad experiences are still bad.” Fits with how intensity and frequency of events can turn just stress into catastrophe and maltheism. I largely can’t control unpleasant bullshit from slamming me. I CAN de-fuse childhood associations and catastrophizing which make unpleasant bullshit more intense (ie makes me more vulnerable to the next thing). Doing so while stressed is hard, though.