A couple more personal observations;
* part of why con drop is going from work (and possibly travel) to desired high activity to work. It’s like how drawing, much as it helps me recharge, is still work and still eats energy.
* being stomped on incidentally can look a lot like willful, malicious intent, especially because being stomped on for someone else’s convenience is sorta abusive *anyway*. And my childhood had relatively few actual bullies but lots of self absorbed folks and coerced dogma.