Previously I'd had this grocery store analogy for recovery and change in worldview.
Let's say you can get to two grocery stores, and one has better products, and a better diversity, for cheaper - but it's further away. Once you have a bike, car or even sturdier bags to carry on the bus, you can save money and feel far healthier.
Maybe eating better helps you bike further, maybe saving money helps you get a car so getting there's no problem -- but if you don't get a bike, car, or sturdy bags through sheer luck you're stuck with the nearer store, which means you can't actually get those things. the crappy option *keeps* you locked into the crappier option for years.
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re: Previously I'd had this grocery store analogy for recovery and change in worldview.
@Leucrotta Yeah, that tracks.
We're dealing with that right now. Need stability to be able to do a job (if we ever can)... need a job for stability.
re: Previously I'd had this grocery store analogy for recovery and change in worldview.
@frostwolf I was thinking about this recently, and I wanted to encourage you to start looking for jobs - initially not so much to *get* a job but to get used to how that feels, and really importantly, how to emotionally recover afterwards.
Similar to how I wanted to encourage you to try to get something part-time, if that won't screw your EBT payments, as a gentler way to start working with and around a job than the full 40 hours plus commute thing.
Imho day jobs aren't fun, and looking for work is actively *unfun*, but I feel like it'd be good to pick up dealing with it as a sort of unpleasant but necessary skill - kinda like learning to clean a bathroom or snake a sink. It sucks, but it's a useful skill to tuck in your head for when you need it, if that makes sense.
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@Leucrotta ...I wish we knew whether it'd screw our EBT payments before we started.
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@frostwolf The scheduling part *is* a difficult thing to get used to, but it's one of many, but I figure it's still less harsh than going from nothing to full 8 hour days or more 5 days a week.
The EBT thing though is a *lot* more potentially damaging, and I'm not quite sure how you'd check on it.
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@Leucrotta Huh.
A part-time job would be easier than full-time? I thought it might be worse 'cause of the inconsistent scheduling.