One of those “you can’t have patriarchy without matriarchs demanding their experience be morally good” sort of deals.
@Leucrotta I think further, in response to the increasing recognition of the personhood of women, masculinity has become incredibly fragile in recent times where people are straight out like "men shouldn't eat dessert"
what happens to "bros before hoes" when a bro becomes a sis, for example
@Leucrotta I feel in the case of men, it comes down to that the terrible way men police other men's masculinity becomes less compelling without the coercion of assumed adherence to cisness
without it, you can't just let the bookish kid go off to be a girl, you need to Make Him a Man