The down side to how people are people everywhere, is how no one group is devoid of assholes. So I’d love it if my ethnic/religious group, other groups perceived as allies and fellow Queers were unanimously saintly but nope. Reality isn’t that convenient. Similarly while its real easy to spot right wing assholes, the left has plenty of shitty people and shitty behavior, despite how I would like to believe otherwise.
Part 2: I feel like this is another effect of growing up with lots of dogmatism, exclusivity, competition, dualism. Even though I didn’t/literally couldn’t become a straight white Christian conservative southerner, I still internalized wanting some right decision that keeps me safe (in this case, always-good political grouping, you’d think an anarchist would know better); that’s not how the world works.