After all these years of believing that I'm this out of control monster, and that a GOOD person would be able to walk away from being this pissed off, I've finally realized the big reasons to drop being angry are that I don't enjoy the emotion and I can't really accomplish anything with it.
@chimerror The Buddha doesn't say not to throw the coal; he's just concerned with the need to get rid of it somehow rather than be miserable.
@Leucrotta yep
@Leucrotta what a wise guy he was
@Leucrotta I heard or read something a while back comparing anger to holding a hot coal to throw it
and I think it's a very apt metaphor