Coming out for me is Weird. Like, my Mom knew from when I was little that I, uh... Wasn't really a Boy, exactly. Reading Dune at 14 and having a long conversation about the concepts of the Divine Feminine with my mom, she essentially Told me what I was. And ended up Being.
So the concept of Outness was basically "How loud am I gonna be about not caring what someone has between their legs compared to what's between their Ears."