Part of my issue is that the part of me that is Tohri has been Built specifically to be "Male, But."
Take just the Good parts of masculinity and slave all of them to service to The Goddess. A... Tamed male. Problem there is that as time went on, he got so far from a Toxic Male that there wasn't much left to him that had the Mars stamp on it by social standards.
And then Kerithe started manifesting.
And she's always been the avatar of Toxic Femininity. The Profane Feminine.