Also, No, Sapiosexual BDSM is when you have an argument about what dishware to buy online that ends in a big fight.
The other person asks which set her friends like better and puts together a consensus.
You come back from work with a freshly made sandwich, all apologies for the fight earlier...
And she doesn't realize till five minutes in that you served it up to her on one of the plates She had wanted in the first place.