When you're Pansexual to the core and care Way more about someone's sexual wants, needs, favorites and attitude towards sex than the bits and pieces, Sexual Contact becomes less -about- Cishet expectations of sex.

If all my partner is comfortable with is naked snuggles and a handjob, I'll make sure it's one they'll never forget, because it's an Absolutely valid sexual form.

Think of it more like Martial Arts, because it shares a lot with those Forms. There are Katas, established rules for consensual contact, steep punishments for using them on another without consent, and it all has to do with manipulating energy flows in you and another person.

You agree on accepted forms, katas, and desires out ahead of time. If you're wanting Iron Dragon style from me, with the affection and softness turned all the way up, I can do that.

If you want Faedragon style without all the Weirdness that comes with that style, I can do That too.

My favorite experiences are long form contact with someone who wants to try Everything from a quiet night snuggled up watching The Princess Bride to a midnight swim and sex in a summer lake to a rough and tumble threeway complete with biting, wrestling and giving/receiving rough anal.

It's all there to be sought, enjoyed, and experienced without hangups or shame. Life is a treasure to be experienced, and helping someone else find a Joy they didn't know they were capable of turned out to be My #1 sexual kink, and orientation.