Tohri: My gender only makes sense when it has surrounding Context. Like, I could say I'm the hardest of the Soft Bois, but that only really has meaning when I'm around Duke, who's the Softest of the Hard Boyz.
And then there's the thing I have going with @budgiebin@snouts.online, where we both kinda ended up in the Middle, from wildly different directions.
And this is ignoring Kerithe for the moment. She adds a whole dynamic of her own.