mh I guess? -
sometimes people are too worried about being bad at art to actually do art because the feeling of it being imperfect is too unpleasant. I am that way about being a good friend. I am so terrified of not being a good friend that it paralyzes me
re: mh I guess? -
@pexl I wrestled with that for years, what I found is that people are forgiving as long as you're not a Shitty person. and ironically, the only way you get a good calibration on That one is encountering Actual shitty people.
You're not a shitty friend Pel, you're going through a lot in your life, and you're not an unfeeling Bastard. You're soft and sensitive and need to be handled with care.
The only people who think you're a bad friend and believe it are bad people. You're allowed to be an NPC in many people's lives, a Player Character for a smaller group, a Party Member for a yet smaller group, and so on.
Or put another way, you're allowed to be an Okay friend. You're allowed to interact, and if you like it, include that person in your life more.
You don't owe anyone anything. Kindness and love are a Gift, not a transaction. Give what you Can, and feel comfortable giving.
