Growing up diagnosed autistic around a bunch of allistic adults is a Way different experience than growing up with a bunch of autistic adults who didn't know they were autistic.
'Cause then you get out into the 'Real World' and you have no idea how it works.
@Motodrachen and then the second phase: to be an autistic adult between the same autistic adults, trying to be subtle but still clear on the fact that they are autistic and that said fact explains a lot of our communication issues and such