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I once had a (former) friend tell me that he thought having a dick was what determined if you were a guy or not.
"I know plenty of girls with dicks," I pointed out.
"Oh, sure, a girl can have a dick. But it's *having one* that determines if you're a guy. You can't have a vagina and be a guy."
And intellectually I know he's wrong but sometimes I get inside my own head and think this way, and it makes me feel like I can't ever be a guy without one.
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@Sparrow
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@Sparrow
sorry the confusion at that oddly specific shittiness kinda crashed me
that sucks
what's in your pants doesn't define you!
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Yeah, I know. Like, I *almost* would have understood if he'd been like "oh no girls can't have dicks". Because that would be an awful way of thinking, but at least one with internal logical consistency? But no, girls can have dicks (fine) and guys *must* have them. What????
But yeah, thank you for the reminder. <3
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Right???! It's super weird. But, he also has a lot of issues of his own. Part of them being dick-related. (He told me at some point that "he wasn't gay, but was attracted to dicks" which may explain why he's cool with them on girls??)
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@Sparrow
ooof
yeah
that's uh
there's some stuff to unpack there methinks
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YUP.
He's also the:
1) First guy I ever kissed (*reeeally underwhelming, lemme tell ya*)
2) Currently dating my first ever girlfriend
3) Someone I haven't spoken to in about 5 years, no regrets
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@Sparrow
yeah that's what really confused me with that
it's not just like garden variety transphobia it's like
realllllly specific????