re: "Conflict is not abuse", off-the-rim take, SA ref
@Kyresti ... I feel this. Like, I've been an outright victim of the very dynamic you're describing here (seriously, even a little bit of communication could've saved like several friendships at once there and saved -me- from a mental breakdown only 24 hours ago), but at the same time this very much sounds like swinging way hard into the other direction and demanding people open up their lives even to people who *are* genuinely abusive.