Meeting family this week outside California and people are shaking hands I usually decline and offer a fistbump but I didn’t feel comfortable (totally my hang up, nobody made it weird). After one handshake though I got so stressed I had to wash my hands right away, so I think I’m gonna have to be better about insisting on fistbumps.
@kyellgold we need a normalized non-verbal cue indicating “no touching, nothing personal.” 🫤
As someone in a nuanced situation, I’ve adopted shoving my paws deep in my pockets around people I don’t believe share the same precautionary behaviors as myself.
I find most people won’t extend their hands when they see that.
Corollary: you need to work your tail off with other non-verbal cues to compensate for the perceived frigidity.
(If only we had ACTUAL tails.)
@artfulreggie @kyellgold hoenstlt this ks why I like those color badges at MFF. I am terrible at cues but the badges are so helpful
@artfulreggie @kyellgold I mean badges have their charms when you get to design and choose where to wear them....
@artfulreggie @ZiaMacPine I would love that for many reasons.
@kyellgold @artfulreggie Also it would be a huge help because i am TERRIBLE at names
@ZiaMacPine @artfulreggie That is another! Although lately I often find myself in groups where different people know me by different names, which would make badges tricky.
@kyellgold @artfulreggie yeah thats a good point
@ZiaMacPine @kyellgold You can do like me and tack on an alternative nickname to your pronouns. Something generic but orthogonally valid across all your projected personas~
@artfulreggie @ZiaMacPine I do tell people "you can just call me 'fox'" sometimes.
@kyellgold @ZiaMacPine that works. Honestly, your vulpinity is so on point; I'm sure most folks see you as a fox anyhow~
@artfulreggie @kyellgold I keep thinking of switching to Fox but I dont think I have the vulpine wit down to truly represent the fluffy foxable way
@ZiaMacPine @kyellgold
- wit
- sass
- teasery
- bites
- swishy hips
At least three are required to earn one's fox card. 😉
@artfulreggie aw I am only one of those on a good day *stays a pine marten*
@kyellgold @artfulreggie @ZiaMacPine We already normalize this for some populations!
@ZiaMacPine @kyellgold normalize badges outside of cons, cowards~
A lot of people already wear badges all day for work. We might as well make them more colorful and useful.