*surveys the last few weeks of chat logs, as social connections have been picking up*

I'm thinking I need to start putting 'not good at small talk' in my intro posts to things. ;)

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@indi

Hm, I am kinda wondering about if I fit that too. Like, I don't just randomly message most people to say "how's it going?", and I usually need /some/ kind of topic of conversation to keep things going.

@emanate Same same same. And then there's the awkward middle place where someone has a topic but they're doing basic conversational 'hey how's it going' handshake anyway and I'm just internally going 'please just get on with it' c.c;

I'm admittedly guilty of doing the latter thing myself, starting off with a yip or hug or other nudge when I actually want to talk about something; I need to get better about that myself.

@emanate

But the whole 'how's it going, let's muddle around until a topic magically arises'.... It fuckin' won't! Not from me at least!

@indi Yeah, I have trouble with this at my job too. Or even, sometimes, someone trying to force a topic by asking for my opinion, but clearly having their own they want to share desperately. I try to screen those out, but it used to be much harder to do.

I guess at work at least I /appear/ to be good at small talk because I'm often finding something to talk about based on what someone's looking at, or buying, or what I know they're reading, etc.

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