nothing is ever deserved, because desert is made up. Like borders & laws, it's a social tool for justifying violence or rewards for certain behaviours. Consider who you want hurt & who you want rewarded, & why. There might just be some hate you could discard, or love you haven't yet acted on.
We're actually all just here to chill out and have fun with eachother. A lot of these rules we're supposed to care about are just about crowd sourcing a Skinner-box that a couple of assholes have leveraged to fill the yawning voids inside them with other people's stuff