Tried to suggest somebody having a shit time on birbhell maybe not go to birbhell. Moderator said "there's no safe space on the internet" Tried to reframe it as a choice about safer spaces, got told I was making unfair assumptions. Tried to apologize for causing hurt, got ignored. Tried to clarify, got blown off. Tried to apologize for miscommunication, got told "that's not a real apology." Said I didn't think there was more I could offer, got accused of gaslighting the moderator.