Need professional advice, mental health, thread
Need some professional/work advice. All advice welcome.
I've got a recruiter attempting to headhunt me. It's just an email, so it could just be someone emailing through their list of cold contacts, but still.
My wife starts her new job (making more than me, which is nice) in two weeks. I want to become a stay-at-home dad due to my anxiety/depression.
Need professional advice, mental health, thread
The Plan is to have both of us work simultaneously at least until Jan 1 2018 to help pay off some debts/save up some money/get a $3k Xmas bonus at my current job. Also, now that my wife is set to be employed, if I get fired before Jan 1 2018 for whatever reason, it's alright because my income is not our sole income. But the longer we can both be working, the better, at least financially.
Need professional advice, mental health, thread
So let's say I pursue this new position. It's something similar to what I'm doing now, which is very stressful. But, what if it pays more? And what if the industry/work environment is less stressful than my current workplace? I know my current coworkers will likely see this as a betrayal: I've been here 6 months and we've had trouble keeping the position I'm currently in adequately staffed. We just barely got to a stable workforce in my department.
Need professional advice, mental health, thread
Me leaving for a new job would throw that into a little chaos, and I think many would take it personally and consider their bridge with me burned. Also, management has kind of worked with me and my depression (kind of but not really, they're at least aware of it, but don't really understand it). Would that be worth it for more money for my family? Is this even my problem? Should I care on the off chance I need those connections years down the line?
Need professional advice, mental health, thread
And what if the new job is worse and I burn out/get fired before Jan 1 2018? (then become a stay-at-home dad early, the decision has been made for you, silly). And am I doing something wrong to hop to a new job with the contingency plan of quitting work in 2018 to be a stay-at-home dad if I need to? It won't look good farther down the line if I worked 6 months here, then 3 or 4 months at new place, then quit for a long time. Does that matter?
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Regardless of where I end up, don't feel guilty for leaving current company, don't feel guilty for leaving new company. Do it when it is right for me and my family and don't take a company's feelings into account. Companies do not deserve an ounce of my emotional labor nor my loyalty because they ultimately are not/haven't been loyal to me.
Thanks for listening. I would appreciate any insight you have.
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Need professional advice, mental health, thread
@theoutrider That makes a lot of sense. I can be honest and upfront about my mental health in the interview and feel confident because I'm not desperate, I have a job already. And if they freak out about that, then you're right, I don't want to work for them anyhow.
Need professional advice, mental health, thread
I think I just needed to talk through it. Here's what I'll do.
Look into this job. Doesn't hurt to look. Take it if it offers much better pay and benefits. Don't take it if it doesn't.
Regardless of whether or not I stay/leave current job and regardless of whether or not the new job is a better working environment, stay in the best-paying job possible for as long as I can, even past Jan 1 2018, to build savings/pay debts while my wife works also.