Harm/emotional discourse
Something I've noticed a lot lately is that there's been a lot of folks navigating harm (to them) who are themselves causing harm as they navigate it
I hope awoo is a good place for this - but the latest thing that happened has left me questioning and wanting to do better
But y'all- and not just awoo.space- let's do good to try to recognize when someone is harmed even if it's bc of their subjective experience and not your fault- and help em heal if we can
Harm/emotional discourse
@vahnj I'm not sure how I can help with this since I can't think of instances where I've seen this occur...
Harm/emotional discourse
@PaulFerence don't worry - it's just something to consider, is all
Harm/emotional discourse
@vahnj What form does it take? Is it lashing out or not using a content warning or something else? What should I do if I see it done?
Harm/emotional discourse
@PaulFerence say for instance person A reacts really strongly over something person B says, even if A put it behind a CW
user B might cause problems for user A, or do something administrative to take action against user A
now, other folks jump on user A bc they went too far
who's in the wrong here? who harmed whom?
it's important to recognize B's stuff might not be objectively harmful- and that it may have been them navigating their personal harm - and (1/2)
Harm/emotional discourse
@vahnj *nods* Okay, I think I understand now. Thanks for explaining.
Harm/emotional discourse
@PaulFerence user A's reaction similarly may be coming from a place of harm as well- their reaction is due to something done to them in the past
it's important to acknowledge willful harm vs. the harm of existing/communicating
even if everybody can't get along- we can at least try to peaceably navigate this, and individuals may end up being harmful if there's no solution- which is OK. but at least boundaries are navigated and respected