ableism.
@ghost@anticapitalist.party i had to ban someone kinda recently for ableism because they thought it was more important to try to get me to acknowledge they weren't ableist over apologizing for using an ableist word
people need to get that this stuff is engrained as common vernacular and just using the words doesn't mean you're choosing to be ableist, but just like every other systemic problem unless you try to do better you are