Seriously. Totally emotionally removed from everything else that's going on in the background...

If you ever get into a serious interpersonal drama, START A NOTEPAD ABOUT IT IMMEDIATELY. Preferably a modern-type one like Evernote that you can have everywhere and paste other relevant media into, like conversation screenshots.

This goes double if, like me, you have a temper you can never be 100% sure is going to remain in check, but that you sincerely want to work on. Having a safe place to rant and store up your bad feelings is an incredibly helpful way to keep yourself from launching them at your opponents before they've had time to simmer properly.

And when you're scared, you can take confidence from the sense that you're DOING something about it... but something slow and cautious. You don't NEED to take it to your opponent, because if they ever come for you themselves, you'll be ready.

And if they never come, so much the better. You'll still have a little journal of every little reason you have to trust yourself, have faith you're doing the right thing, and not let the fear of them coming and upsetting your apple-cart drive you to do something rash.

I never wanted to be a warrior anyhow, and I'm so happy to have found a way to fight like a scholar. Never fuck with someone with research skills and a willingness to write EVERYTHING down. :)