re: actor death, sad but not traumatic
@OldBrushNewPaper I've kept my sanity through these things as I age, by generalizing the rule I set after the funeral of my 90-year-old great-grandmother, who lived a fine life and died painlessly in the middle of a Catholic church service. (Which sounds like a nightmare to me, but was right up her alley.)
Keep in mind that the following is PURELY my own approach and NOT intended to be normative in any way:
If they're older than the average human life expectancy when they go, not in the middle of any major unfulfilled projects, died comfortably, and seemed to have led a pretty happy life, I don't mourn. I give them a moment of silence, a round of applause, and a "Well done. Full marks." And then I look for their successor.
Now, granted, in Rutger Hauer's place, I'm not sure he actually HAS one, nor that any such thing is possible... And losing Roy Batty has a certain poignance that is entirely unique...