self, gender (~)
My stupid old calcified brain keeps forgetting that "genderqueer" and "non-binary" are THINGS now and I don't have to either double down on being trans or walk away.
That was my bad. :) There are still some major tectonic shifts happening in my gender, and they are definitely motivated in part by the desire to voluntarily soak up some of the anti-cis and anti-male stigma out of pure stubbornness. :p
But I keep forgetting I have other, less contentious options. Sorry! =^_^;=