So I've been kind of iffy on my doctor for a while. He doesn't understand the concept of "acceptable side effects"- every time I mention I can tell the asthmamedicine is working because it does funky things he freaks out. He doesn't seem to consult or make notes at all, so he'll mention wanting to do tests then drop it unless I bring it up, cover the same stuff over and over. Oh and he's very reluctant to do any sort of pain management, gets very hand wringy about the potential side effects.

He's moving to a new practice soon, so I had decided to stay with the alternative doctor they offered, problem "solved".

A week ago my hip went VERY BAD and I was in the ER for eleven hours. X-ray, CT, MRI, all not very conclusive.

On the follow up visit, the new doctor wasn't available so I got the old one once more. When I mentioned the pain was less he said "So what do you want to talk about?" and I did a ???

eventually he came up with a list of several possibilities and after dithering referred me to a rheumatologist.

Then he outed me to the provider IN THE REFERRAL EMAIL.

I wrote to ask WTF and he profusely, over-reactedly apologized, and then I felt like I had to explain that wasn't the only reason I wasn't going to seek follow up care with him anymore for the reasons above and now *I* feel like the asshole for some reason?