@Felthry critical mass of the "people in charge" ignoring the users, it's about to all collapse if they don't start making positive, incremental changes away from a single authoritatian marginally competent leadership model.

Go look up ZMQ if you want a good example of how to manage a community.

Here's a link:
zguide.zeromq.org/page:all#the

Read the whole thing if you want to intelligently disagree.

It'll only take a few days if you really work at it diligently.

Educate thyself before disagreeing.

@eryn I'm not disagreeing with anything??? I just asked what was going on

@Felthry yeah, that was just my general disclaimer.

I've been dealing with hardcore harassment from...a lot of underinformed people, and I very much didn't mean to cause defensiveness or difficulty...

I just...this is super important to me, ref jakimfett.com/status-report/ep, and I will NOT be content to stay quiet while it happens to my social network of choice, too.

ref: toot.cat/@eryn/100177946920275

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@eryn okay, sorry... but that did come off as really accusatory and confrontational and gave me a pretty big anxiety spike :x I don't know what sort of harassment you're dealing with but I hope it stops soon

@Felthry I'm so so so so sorry, I'll keep that in mind in the future, I didn't mean to cause harm, I promise.

Is there anything I can do to help repair the damage, aside from "don't do that again"?

@eryn the promise to not do it again is enough. I'm sorry for overreacting; it was a combination of a bunch of things

@eryn I get anxiety over being misunderstood, so when I asked a question and it looked like you got all confrontational about it it made it seem like I'd been misunderstood and now you were upset at me and x.x things are hard

@Felthry i empathize with this whole thing so so much...i get in "data mode" when I fighting battles, and it makes all my sharp edges come out, and sometimes they give people bruises and scrapes, and thank you so so so much for trusting me to listen, I love you and value your space on my timeline, and always want you to feel safe around me, and I will change my behavior if you need me to.

@Felthry I will never ask or need you to apologize for having emotions.

Thank you, I appreciate you so so so much.

@eryn Thank you. Thank you for being understanding and willing to listen. I was worried about even approaching you about that at first because I wasn't sure how you'd react, but I'm glad I did.

@Felthry I live to serve.

And how can one serve if they do not listen, first?

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