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grf, feeling like I just can't do social interaction right and I mean, it was entirely my fault this time I just. wasn't thinking and I don't know, I came off as really rude and
how do I get myself to understand that unsolicited explanations of things are not something most people welcome
I know they're not but I still feel that urge to explain things and I know I shouldn't but I don't realize that I shouldn't until well after actually doing the thing
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I just. I'm not trying to be rude it just legitimately doesn't occur to me that it's rude, it feels like I'm being helpful
how do I internalize that I should not do that
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@Felthry I kinda had that issue and can give advice if wanted?
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@Felthry it’s kinda training yourself to ask. I found a script helps?
‘Is it okay if I explain/offer help with this thing?—I know about it, but want to check you’d be okay with it’
...which I’m not gonna say doesn’t require practice to get used to doing.
It took me a while to train myself to do this, and I still forget—but I know generally I can ask folks first most the time now.
(My issue was more offering advice unsolicited or help, so similar enough I feel I can offer some advice?)