trans stuff
I've been catching myself gatekeeping myself in my own thoughts, lately.
I was 'trans' for a fair decade, representing as female online, and thinking of myself that way irl.
Now I consider myself enby, and I'm like, "Do I still count as trans? Can I still call myself trans?"
Despite these invasive thoughts, I am confident that I still 'count as trans'. I am enby, and trans.
Still, I do feel a bit alienated by a lot of the modern trans community. I'm so old now. ;.;
re: trans stuff
@relee was it ever tied to dysphoria? the only reference point we have for that is transmedicalists who are insistent that you can't be trans if you're not dysphoric and that's a widely reviled opinion
-F
re: trans stuff
@Felthry Yeah, way back it was closely tied to that. Transmedicalism comes from that, too, I think. There's a disorder on the books that covers it, and you used to have to prove you had it before you could get hormones or surgery.
You also had to live as the other gender for a year to demonstrate it, without hormones or anything, and they would judge whether you were properly gender enough.
Folks today have lost so much history, somehow. Many elder trans folks are still alive.
re: trans stuff
@relee we know about those requirements, most of them are still on the books in at least some places and are also widely considered awful, transphobic laws
-F
re: trans stuff
@Felthry Yeah they're pretty horrible, but they were the first step out of a history where trans people just had to live with it, or die, and most chose death. Things keep getting better, no matter how awful they are in the moment.
For me, I wonder what it even means to be ___ gender. What makes a gender a thing? Is it just what you call yourself? How you look? How others think of you? Does it have anything to do with what's in your pants, anymore?
Why do I need/want to be enby?
re: trans stuff
@relee absolutely has nothing to do with what's in your pants, but other than that those are questions you have to answer for yourself
-F
re: trans stuff
@Felthry Thank you!
Things have been weird for me ever since trans stopped being tied to gender dysphoria, and I'm not entirely sure what it means anymore. A lot of things seem to be opposite, these days.
Still, I'm not cis-gendered, as they've come to call it.
It always makes me think of satelites and orbits, though.