self ~
i think, one of our biggest flaws is that we're just terrified of conflict
even if we're not involved, seeing a friend involved in some kind of conflict, or worse, two friends in conflict with each other, is just... really hard for us to bear
i don't begrudge anyone their opinions, i just... we don't know how to deal with conflict
i feel like it's unhealthy, the degree to which we feel like we need to avoid conflict at all costs, but i'm not sure where to begin working on it
-F
self ~
@Felthry There are good reasons to be afraid of conflict, though, especially when two friends are in a bitter fight. It's not a weakness to try avoiding that.
If it isn't routinely causing you problems where you're kept from doing things you need, or strongly want, to do, though, it probably isn't particularly unhealthy. You can content yourself to working out how to emotionally support a friend, even when they fight with another friend. (Which *is* a hard problem, agreed.)
self ~
@Felthry
I'm the same way and I don't know how to deal with this either. I'm conflict-averse to a ridiculous degree.