if like me you are white, you will find that you must pay attention to what people who aren't white say, or you'll never know what's going on
if you are not Black, you will not know what's going on unless you listen to Black people
your white friends will never be racist *to you*
this is a thing people have been saying for a long time, that whiteness can make difficult to understand
whole chunks of reality are invisible to us
so we have to pay attention