Pinned toot

Revised thanks to recent events:
My name is Valerie Grimaude-Valens, but you can also call me Freya. I am an 8 foot tall Squirrel Werewolf who rejected heaven. I'm a sister to @AliceGrimaude and a mother to a few adoptees.

I am a former fascist who had reformed into an anarcho-syndicalist and a supporter of antifa. I sometimes talk about my time in the AltFurry cult to help people avoid falling in with that bad crowd, and to demolish the rhetoric they use to poison the community.

Compliment your cute math nerd friends with this secret forumula. :3c

Wow, I really got angry last night processing trauma.

Well, I feel better now, but instead, I am dealing with dysphoria. I need to shave soon~
-Julayla

Recoveryvent, gamergate mention (~) 

@FreyaManibrandr “black people in my historical accurate game?!?” *meanwhile ignoring the hundreds of medieval and early modern artworks revealing that there was Africans in Medieval Europe* nytimes.com/2012/11/09/arts/de

re: Recoveryvent, gamergate mention (~) 

And while we're at it, if you think that there are historically no PoC in Europe, and you refuse to educate yourself on the truth instead of consuming brainworm conservatrash garbage from 8Chan, please go choke on Hitler's rotting cock and join him in Hel.

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Recoveryvent, gamergate mention (~) 

Honestly, looking back, it's blindingly obvious how much Gamergate was a haphazardly-constructed trojan horse built by Nazis to try to entrench themselves and their ideas into the already white and entitled gaming community.

And a lot of shitty developers like the piece of shit white supremacist who developed Kingdom Come: Deliverance, capitalized on that to push their shitty game normalizing the erasure of black people from european historical knowledge.

At this, point if any of you still cling on to Gamergate like a turd nugget hanging on to a withered ass hair, do us all a favour and flush yourself. Ctrl+Alt+Del yourself from life, the world is better off without you.

-Julayla

hi im a cheeky goblin but

it's my birthday on wednesday! if anyone wants to buy something from me or drop a lil tip it would make my day! or also drop some cute animal pictures!

paypal.me/n7loren
etsy.com/uk/shop/tinygoblinsho
commissions are pinned!

Cyberpunk 2077 devs "have been spending week ends in the office and doing 16 hour days pretty much since June 2019"

"We have no idea what we are doing but we (CDPR) have infinite cash and we fix everything with more crunch."

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FurryLifeOnline, syscourse, subtoot (---) 

furrylife.online/forums/topic/

You know what Somekh? Fuck you, you're the truscum of the plural community, and you're poisoning people's minds with this harmful exclusionary smear. Pinche sinverguenza.

cheating at #DressLikeYourFursonaDay with an old selfie because bumble dee just wears my everyday early autumn outfit

(eye contact in selfie, art by @luxatile@twitter.com)

Mindfuck 

Do we dream when we sleep?
Or are we all really just waking up,
to the chaotic protean nature of
the reality that lurks underneath,
when we tire of this waking illusion?

Plural gatekeeping with a side dish of DARVO 

furrylife.online/forums/topic/
FurryLife Online
The continued albiest bahavior in fandom spaces

Imagine thinking that you have to suffer an arbitrary amount for the right to have an identity, and imposing that standard on everyone else around you, and creating a false zero sum game between people like you, and people different to you who didn't need to suffer to have that identity.

In the trans world, we call those people like that truscum and TERFs, and lo and behold they have caused a lot of damage to women's and trans people's rights. So how are we supposed to see people who mirror this "suffering is mandatory, or you're a predator" rhetoric on he/him lesbians, pan/bi lesbians, and endogenic/hybrid plural systems other than harmful to the pan, lesbian or plural communities?

It's all a grift to divide us and get us fighting against each other. And who benefits from all this? Fascists.

Stop being gatekeepers, you're not helping.

DARVO, end of thread, an offer 

If you need someone to talk to who is not going to judge you for your behavior, past or present, but who will instead try to help you untangle your thoughts and get to a point where you are safe and healthy and can begin addressing what's wrong, please feel free to drop me a line. I can't promise a lot of support, but I will do what I can, even if it's simply listening.

/thread

DARVO 

There is no shame in saying, "I'm sorry, I didn't know, I will do better next time" and simply *withdrawing*.

You do not have to fight back.

You do not have to escalate things.

It's okay to be wrong, and it's okay to admit to it. Growing and learning are part of life.

DARVO 

If you are reading this and feel like parts of it are extremely uncomfortable, good news: you can make a conscious choice to change your behavior.

If you feel ashamed of how you have been acting, realize this: growing up in an abusive household means that the coping strategies you learn are abusive. It is *on you* to realize that they do not bring you happiness and do the work to relearn them.

You can start by identifying what you do and making an effort to stop it.

DARVO 

Don't Justify what you did. They will twist it and use it against you.

Don't Argue -- this feeds their victim complex.

Don't Defend -- it makes you look guilty, and they will absolutely latch onto that.

Don't Explain -- there is no explanation you can give that will make them stop being an asshole.

Repeat what you have said, with evidence if you have it, make sure other people have the full story, and let 'em know about DARVO if you are comfortable doing so. Then bow out.

DARVO 

Finally:

If you are the whistleblower, and this happens to you, please note that you are not alone. It is a *common* tactic, laughably common.

There is not a lot you can do, but there are a few things.

There's another useful acronym here -- JADE. Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain.

The temptation is to think that you're dealing with a reasonable human being, and they'll listen to you and take what you say in good faith, but...they won't.

DARVO 

5). At this point, it is on you to let other people know what the situation is and what the accused is trying to do. You have to keep the focus on *their* behavior, and support their victim -- the ACTUAL victim.

If you can do this, congratulations, you're on your way to building a healthy community.

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