re: RSD
@Metaph I think it might be related to the hyperfixation part of ADHD, where the brain just can't let go of the idea that fucking up a thing would be the absolute worst thing that could ever happen in the history of worst things happening. I can't say for sure though, as I don't think I experience RSD as bad as others do?
Not to say that I don't; I know I've had a lot of missed opportunities over the years simply due to the fear of fucking up and forever being shamed for it/having it thrown in my face every time I think about trying again.
re: RSD
@Kilroy @Metaph for me it's half that and half like hyperfixating on absolutely wild "this person knows this person and these people know these people and if i fuck this up then eventually it'll spiderweb out and everyone on the planet will hate me and my life will be over" stuff